This is a serious issue worth paying attention to,believe me.!
As easy as getting into the right relationship is for some,it's quite unfortunate and not so easy for others.
Why???
Love is not the only important and necessary ingredient for a fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Just so you know, Love is more than a feeling, so if you get in to a relationship based on feelings, then be sure that relationship won't last.
Love is a decision. As a matter of fact, you can love anybody and everybody.
Have you ever noticed someone you just never liked at first glance, or someone you felt you could never like for no reason at all and suddenly you end up in the same office,with your desk not far from each other. You get to see each other everyday and almost immediately, you could see this someone for who he /she truly is and suddenly, you find yourself feeling differently about the person after all.
Do you even know you could end up marrying such person?
Making a decision to love someone is what we are commanded to do, not to follow our feelings...
So, to make a decision on whom to marry,you need to seek wisdom,its not enough to be a relationship expert, or to feel all the vibes, you have to go on your knees to pray, so God can reveal what you need to know. Also, you need to seek counsel from people you regard highly, take for example your spiritual and earthly parents. The Bible says, there's SAFETY in the multitude of counselors....
You have to be very careful when making your choice about whom to marry because once you are in,you are in!
It's also not enough to get married to the right person. Just as mentioned in the previous Article :Dont Quit Just Yet , it takes constant effort to ensure your relationship goes through the right direction.
Efforts like :
- Praying consistently
- Focus on doing your own part
- Loving your spouse regardless of any hurts
- Consistent communication.
Keeping at these will not only save and preserve your marriage ,but it will be an enjoyable journey all year long.
Note :As regards the point; giving in to prayer, I don't mean any kind of prayer, there's a book,i would love to recommend, How To Pray Effectively by Chris Oyakhilome D.Sc,D.D.
This book will teach you how to pray effectively and get results..maybe you've got a spouse with a terrible habit, a drunkard, etc...Remember we said, challenges works patience in you...
You've got to keep at it, it may take you days, or months, or years to get your desired results, but surely,you will get the result!
I know they say it takes two to work out a relationship perfectly, but in some cases where it only takes one, I know it may not be easy, but you've got to focus on these outlined points stated above.
Domestic violence is a dangerous and unexciting adventure for couples to experience so please be wise about your choices.
Enjoy this day and keep a smile on!.
To your success.
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