Attitude is a choice.

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Are you in a marriage relationship with someone you love so much but you can't quite say he loves you back as much?

How has this situation affected your outlook about life ?

Does this feeling make you wake up every morning ready to embrace your day?

It's not quite funny, right???

Interestingly,so many people allow their circumstances to dictate their attitudes.

There is no information reaching them that;

 Attitude is a choice!.

Scripture encourages us to Always put on a fresh new mental attitude.

See this:

"So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you." Romans 12:1-2 MSG .

See???.......

Irrespective of what the situation with your spouse may be, we are encouraged to choose to focus and place it before God as an offering.

Get excited about your everyday life. 

Negative thinking always makes the small stuff seem so much bigger,until you start living in constant worry and frustration. 

Remember, we all face different difficulties,obstacles that seem impossible to overcome. The difference between those who get stuck in them and the ones who rise above it is their Attitude!.

Make a list if you have to, so you can see clearly the good things in your life  that are worth celebrating and make a decision to maintain the right attitude irrespective of the situation.

The situation can only pass,if you maintain the right attitude.

Your spouse can love you much more than you could ever imagine and you could end up living happily ever after.

Smiles....

Cheers!!!

Say It As It Is…….

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When dealing with your spouse, 

Never be afraid to be who you are with him/her. 

That is the one person you should be ‘vulnerable’ with, in the first place. There is no reason to be shy about anything whatsoever when you're with your spouse.

The intimate love relationship is something so beautiful, too beautiful than I can describe. 

God is so on point when He said “…and two shall become one…” 

I think that’s just the best way to put it. It is a bond tied for life, an infusion of souls, this thing God did, is just amazing. It’s a realm that should function just the way it was designed to be.

So, never be afraid to tell your partner whatever it is. Don’t be shy to be yourself around your partner. Don’t hold anything back. Say it as it is and be confident of your safety.

But if you find yourself always walking around on egg shell, and can’t be with your partner the way you really want, then it is an abnormal way of life. That wasn’t what God did; man formed that way and allowed the devil to tell him a lie.

An honest chat with your partner can turn that around for you two, but if that won’t work, then pray!

 Pray to the point you start seeing results.

The key to every lasting relationship is communication. 

Be so fond of each other that you get to gist about nothing! Laugh about everything. Never ever get to the point where you feel too old being this way. God designed this way to last for a life time!!!

I watched a movie sometime ago titled ‘something’s gotta give’.

It was a story of a full grown; old man who always flirts with girls. One day he met an older lady as well and as usual, never takes his relationships serious. The lady fell in love with him so bad that she confronted him one day expressing how much she loves him, crying and all that drama…the man could not believe and comprehend what she was saying. The lady got offended when she realized the man was acting really dumb. Smiles…..She left him and cried for many days, thinking about him and so on…after many years; the man realized he had never felt anything he had ever felt for this woman in his entire life. He knew it was love. He went searching for the woman after say 6 years or so….and eventually found her in Paris on her birthday. So many things happened but he got an opportunity to confess to the lady;He said: 63 years of my life, this is my first time of falling in love.(I paraphrased that line).They got married of course and lived in the most happy way.

I cried so much when I watched that movie because I realized a lot of people don’t even know what love is, how that they may never experience this beautiful feeling their entire life. And that taught me to cherish the life I have now, cherish my spouse and learn to savor every moment like it’s my last, to go all the way and do all I can to enjoy my relationship no matter what!

Your relationship with your spouse is special. Never treat it as common. Love is worth celebrating every day.

Never bottle up anything! Give your thoughts and feelings full expression.

Life is too short to be unhappy for 60seconds.

Cheers!!!

Change....

Life is all about this simple but powerful word.

Change happens whether we realize it or not, it happens when we are unaware of its existence.

Change is EVERYTHING! Understanding the power of change will transform your life from victory to victory.

There was a time you weren’t as grown as this…

When you didn’t know the things you know now………

When you were fed and taught, but you are feeding yourself and teaching yourself now…..

When you were a young lady and now you are a married woman………

When being born again used to be an old fashioned way, but now you know being born again is the real deal….

Change happens all the time. 

Your attitude when change is going on is something I want to focus on at this moment.

A lot  of times we don’t like how change happens because we want our lives to go in a certain direction and it’s not happening, you always think life would be different if only you had this thing or if only things happened to you in a different way.

You have to stop that thought right away because it’s a trap that the devil uses to hinder you from enjoying God's best. The way you want your life to go may just not be the right way for you. As long as you have come to Jesus, and He is your Lord and Saviour, then, however the direction of your life goes, know and believe He is working it out for your good and He is in complete control.

You may have been praying and hoping to get married to a kind of man you have painted for yourself, probably a Tall, Dark & Handsome guy, and along the line ,someone you never thought you would be attracted to come knocking on your door, and then you cry asking God, why???????

Smiles…….

That may just be the person that would stay committed to you for the rest of your life!

Change is beautiful,Welcome it! Give room for it, Stay open and accept where God has you today.

It’s only a matter of time when everything comes together in full picture and you will understand why things have gone in the other direction.

Keep your faith alive and allow CHANGE!

Love you loads.

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Hello Everyone...............

This is worth reflecting on...don't you think???

"What did i do for the other 8 months"?......This statement is very correct because you are expected to do something remarkable for each month and not expect the month to do something remarkable for you.

What are you waiting for?Go ahead and start anyhow,let the rest of the year be meaningful.

I love you, My heart is with you.

Cheers!

Love the Opportunity..

Hey guys....

Been a while........
Been so busy juggling lots of things....but i just got an inside information someone needs to read these thoughts:

Sometimes,when you walk up to an opportunity's door,Don't knock!Kick it down,smile and introduce yourself!


Somebody said you have to love what you do, but that's not necessarily true. What is true is that you have to love the opportunity.

The opportunity to build life, future, health, success and fortune. Knocking on someone's door may not be something you love to do, but you love the opportunity of what might be behind that door.

For example, a guy says, "I'm digging ditches. Should I love digging ditches?" The answer is, "No, you don't have to love digging ditches, but if it is your first entry onto the ladder of success, you say, 'I'm glad somebody gave me the opportunity to dig ditches and I'm going to do it so well, I won't be here long.'"

You can be inspired by having found something; even though you are making mistakes in the beginning and even though it is a little distasteful taking on a new discipline that you haven't learned before.

You don't have to love it, you just have to learn to appreciate whatever it may be, appreciate opportunity and appreciate the person who brought you the good news; that found you.

Appreciate the person who believed in you before you believed in yourself, appreciate the person who said, "Hey, if I can do it, you can do it."

If you will embrace the disciplines associated with the new opportunity you will soon find that your self-confidence starts to grow, that you go from being a skeptic to being a believer. And soon when you go out person to person, talking to people, you will find it to be the most thrilling opportunity in the world.

Every person you meet - what could it be? Unlimited! Maybe a friend for life. The next person could be an open door to retiring. The next person could be a colleague for years to come. It's big time stuff. And sometimes in the beginning when we are just getting started we don't always see how big it is.

So, before you are tempted to give up or get discouraged, remember all success is based on long term commitment, faith, discipline, attitude and a few stepping stones along the way. You might not like the stone you are on right now, but it's sure to be one of the stones that lead to great opportunities in the future.

I Love you

To Your Success.

Living A Life Of Gratitude......

Life is full of so many unkind things, unbearable situations, inconveniences and the likes.....but you know, you have to learn to live above any situation you may be facing.

Your marriage may not be going on well,you may be having a hard time trying to find or keep a man, you may not have enough to take care of your parents as expected, it may be lack of funds to execute a project you've been hoping to do, it may even be you got shelter problems...etc...

Can you try to live above these needs??
Can you just try to remain unperturbed, happy and steadfast in enjoying your life regardless of all these troubles??

Life is beautiful, and short.
Rapture can happen at any time...if that happens,all that you have ever enjoyed will be all that you have and can enjoy.

Live a life of Gratitude. Applaud yourself every time for the little things you pull off.
Applaud your spouse, parents ,friends,leaders,etc...
Never take anything or anyone for granted.

Always remember, no matter how uncomfortable you may feel regarding anything whatsoever in your life, some other person somewhere is praying to have that life.

I heard a story last week from a very dear sister, she said she was watching TV, and there was a man telling a story about his Mentor. He said they were both driving somewhere and suddenly his mentor got a call from someone telling him about a very bad situation going on at that hour, all the man could hear his mentor say was.."What???.....
His mentor kept saying that all through the conversation and he heard nothing from the other end of the phone.
When the conversation was over, he asked his mentor, what that was about...
His mentor said to him:"My Father's house is being burnt down ".On hearing this,the young man was very agitated and asked what they needed to do about the situation at that moment, but he got the shock of his life; His mentor was calm, totally peaceful and said, he needed to get some  grapes.
He drove to the mall,stepped out of the car, asked the young man if he cared to join in, and they got in for the grapes.
He wondered what was going on, but the mentor told him, there was nothing he could do at the moment but that God was in control.
The young man took that as a lesson never to forget.

So,you see??? Life will always happen, but you've got to learn to be in peace regardless of whatever happens.
Be happy,stay in peace, be thankful and you will be amazed at the blessings that will come your way when you re not looking.

There's strength and power in you.
Let nothing tell you otherwise.
You may feel like your life looks ordinary today, but you are writing the pages of history!
Hold unto these words and let them drive you to your destiny!
There's a beautiful life ahead of you, not worth giving up on.

Keep living, Be happy and Stay Happy!
I love you, Always.
Cheers.

Where Does Your Heart Stand??.............

Functions of your internal dialogue determines the  positioning of your heart.

This is a great key that affects how everything about you turns out to be. 

How do you explain a little girl who became an orphan at a tender age, grew up with her life holding little hope for significance,with no position, no power,who could merely be described as  one of many young girls in the city,but in possession of great values that set the course of her life around .

This is none other, but Amazing QUEEN ‎ESTHER

We all know her story.....

(Read the entire chapter in the Book of Esther of any living Bible if you don't know this story. )

Esther believed in herself and in her God and ‎that gave  her ACCESS. She had favor  with God and men.

She kept living her life, days grew into months,years and suddenly came a day,an opportunity showed up;The king of the city needed to pick a wife. 

This young lady joined the contest and after a few period of preparation, she became the Queen!

Thinking about her story makes me realize it's not about going  everywhere seeking to be noticed,It's about understanding the purpose of your existence and your need for wanting to be married, to have a child or whatever need you may have. 

These thoughts affect the positioning of your heart and that's why you need to be careful. 
You may wonder why no one has come to make any proposition in the last 2 years.....

Well,.....

Your heart may not be properly positioned concerning the subject matter.

Truth is Opportunity ALWAYS  show up when you are ready!!!

Now, take a good look at yourself and ask yourself:

Can I be married to a King someday if I take a cue from Queen Esther's story? 

(Don't necessarily mean the 'president of a nation 'or 'a Governor' even though it's inclusive in my description of a King..if you find a man of integrity whose heart is right with God, that's the  King you need ,sister!!)

We're all different,but there are principles  that have been set to produce exceptional results over and over again when put in good use. 

Esther became the Queen because of her heart  position.

She understood who she was and that she was a person of destiny! 

Even though we look the same, we are not all the same! 

This is as simple as it gets!Change from within by positioning your heart rightly and watch what happens. 

I write to every young lady and lad out there today,willing to get the best out of life...

Embrace the values that will set you aside for greatness .

An extra ordinary life doesn't just happen.... 
A fabulous relationship doesn't just happen....

Cultivate and exude the virtues that can attract a King, then you re on your way to setting your life on a course that it's destined to travel.

And to the King, watch out for these virtues. There' re ladies with these virtues, Look out for them; for it is the glory of God to conceal a matter ;the honor of a King to search it out. 
Go all out to search and then you can boldly say "I have found............"

Your best days are right ahead of you. 

Stop waiting, Act Now.

I wish you well.

Love, Always.

A Totally Different Ball Game.......

Do you know that dating rules and marriage rules are different?

You hear a lot of stories and you wonder if the people involved are aware that once you re married, the rules changes.

You may be reading this article and may be wondering what changes there are.

Well,lets take a look at this.......

Imagine a scenario whereby while dating your boyfriend,argument about something breaks out and then he hit you and kicks you out of the house.

Do you believe as a single lady, that may be your last of seeing that guy???Not just because there was an argument and he hit you, but because  he trampled on your value and deprived you of your rights to protect your  dignity as a woman.
You may not want to return to that kind of man,because you also feel that if he hit you once, he will do it again and again.
We are all different, every lady is not the same, some may not mind a few slaps here and there for the rest of their lives, while some do mind.
Its all about our choices.

On the other note, if this scenario plays out after being married to your prince charming, your decision is different. You have no option of disappearing whether for a day or a week or forever.
Your only option is to cry if you must and be submissive despite it.
You may be wrong if you put back a slap or  respond angrily with hurtful words or curse
You may be right if you get really upset, walk away angrily, lock yourself up for a few hours to cry,talk to God, sleep and wake to make  dinner if it's not past dinner time.

Why???

Because it's a totally different Ball Game!

Now, this example does not describe this as a chronic domestic violence case. The story is just as simple as it is.

You see?
To enjoy your marriage is a decision you make. Just the same way you decide to love.
God never promised no challenges when married,but He did state our roles.
Once each party is committed to fulfilling the role,then you re bound to have a heaven on earth experience staying married!

He said husbands love your wives: question is will a man who loves his wife hit her??The answer is NO.
And there are no conditions attached to this statement,He didn't say Love her when she's in order.
Same thing to wives;wives, submit to your husbands,even when the condition is not right or favorable, as long as this man becomes your husband, submit to his lordship.

That's why it's very important to watch and be careful when it's that time of your life to get married.You can't afford to get it wrong. If you do,that decision will affect you the rest of your life and you will have no one to blame for it.

Be ready to stick with and enjoy the consequences of your choice.
If you find your self in a situation whereby you re not enjoying your marriage, there's hope if you re willing to pay the price.

Influence can get your spouse back. Yes,influence!
Before influence comes to play, you have to know God and understand his motives and plans for marriage. You have to be right with God.
There can be no successful marriage without God.
Once you put all of that in place and have in you, His Love, then you're ready to get your spouse right.

Influence is simply the power to produce an effect without an apparent exertion.This simply means you can produce an effect, a change in the life of your spouse just by living your life.

Your wife does wrong ,but you still love her regardless and show it in your ways of talking to her, giving attention, buying her gifts, etc...
Your husband does wrong ,but you still remain submissive: you cook for him, take care of the home, pray for him, support him nonetheless.

Maintaining these positions for as long as it takes can not but produce the desired results. Love works all the time.

See??? Nothing is impossible.
Make up your mind to give your best on every count.
Understand and be ready to accept the fact that it's a totally different ball game when you're set to take the next step.

Here s wishing you the very  best.
Have an amazing day
Cheers.

It All Depends On Your Inner Reflection....

Many people don't realize they look like their inside.

Is there something about you,you don't like?? Check your inside. Check the thoughts you process every seconds...if you can change what you think about, then you can change how you look on the outside.

I am a very beautiful young lady...so beautiful that my husband finds me irresistible every second of our lives since we met.

So beautiful that I never go unnoticed everywhere I go. 

This is possible because this is exactly how I see myself on the inside.

But you know,there were days I didn't know how beautiful I was.
I got dressed without the consciousness of who I am,
I looked into the mirror but didn't see anything. 

This persisted because I had no information and no recognition of the abilities and the power that resided in me.

The proven reality that says the eyes without the mind sees nothing, is so true.

Only God,through His word,can make the mind get  functional appropriately.

Same approach applies to our relationships...

The beauty of your relationship is dependent on how you see it to be from within.Remember you attract what you think about the most.

What thought dominates your mind about your relationships?

How do you see your spouse?

How do you relate with your parents ?

How do you deal with your siblings??

How do you address people who are ahead of you?? 

Everything is a function of your inner processing. 

And to change whatever it is you may not like,you have to listen to what you re saying about yourself, or your relationships

Listen to the thoughts you're playing in your mind. It is extremely important you take note of your internal dialogue and make sure it is working for your benefit. 

Feel like a winner from within by thinking it,and act like a winner on the outside by speaking it.

You will be amazed at how this transforms your life and relationships. 

Beautiful weather in the city of Lagos. 

Enjoy your day people.

Cheers.

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Power of your influence....

Happy New Month of June people....

A beautiful story I read sometimes ago about a Mayor and his wife came to my mind and I thought to share it with the beautiful ladies paying attention. 

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Let me also apologize for being away for quite some time.Will work on making up for the lost time..smiles....

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The mindset that this short story gives, changes everything if properly understood and appropriated. 

The story is about a newly elected mayor of a town in Ohio. 
At the inaugural parade,as he and his wife rode down the main street in the motorcade,waving to the crowds of people gathered along the route,they passed a man who was calling out to the mayor' s wife.
The Mayor asked, "who is that man?"

She replied by saying that was her old boyfriend. 

The Mayor nodded his head and said :" Just think ; if you would have married him,you wouldn't be the mayor' s wife today"

She smiled and answered, 'No,if I would have married him,he would be the mayor today. '

What a story!!!

The question is how many ladies realize they got this much influence??

It is not about " looking for the rich, tall ,dark and handsome"......because the lesser is always  included in the greater.

When you realize the power of your influence,then you are set to create your world of happiness, joy and love. 

Don't allow time dictate the course of your life. You create your future in the course of time. 

All you need is inside you. You may never get what you re looking for if you keep looking around or hoping someday, someone will come around.
This is because what you re looking for is right where you are, right within you. 
Look inwards, change your perspective and you ll begin to see the things you never thought were around you. 

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For the single  ladies,you can still meet your man and be married before this year runs out. ‎

For the single guys,the latter paragraph is applicable to you too..Open your Mind to see.....She is right where you are!!!‎

It's a beautiful Monday filled with exciting benefits. Enjoy the most of it. 

Love you Always.

Cheers.‎

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Tell That Someone..............

Have you said these words to someone today?

Make it a point of duty to tell at least one person per day.

Someone needs to hear these words from you.It could be a child,a colleague,a stranger,a friend,your spouse,parents,enemy(that's if you got one)smiles....

Good words like this means more than anything else in the world to some people.its not always about giving the most expensive gifts.It could just be about saying these words as often as possible to that person you may be trying to get it right with.

Good words work like magic.

Spice up your relationships with the right words of love and get ready for the impact.

There is NOTHING,There is NO ONE that can stand against the power of beautiful words like this. 

And one more thing,you dont say these words only when you feel like saying it,Make a decision to say it ALL THE TIME if you want to see the fruits it can produce.

Say it regardless of how you feel and try to mean it.When someone offends you,rather than respond in anger and hurtful words,say:You re the Best, and i Love you..smiles...i know what you re thinking right now..(laughs)...Truth is, if you set your mind for a change ,you can achieve it.

We need to make our world a better place,and that Change starts with you!

Take Great Care Of You.

Enjoy Your Day

Much Love

Love in dark places.

Allow me start by informing you that desperate  people look  for love in the wrong places.

It may surprise you to know that Love is not where you're hoping to find it at times as Love is not in the abundance of material things you possess,
Love is not paid for neither is Love based on assumption.

Love is in you!!!

Give it expression and watch what it attracts to you. Love expressed from within you is a magnetic force that creates or finds its  match .

For what reason would you be going everywhere, bothering yourself over what Is already available in you?

A piece of advice: Stop the search and look inwards.

Love is a powerful force that works all the time.

That guy or lady you have been looking for is right inside you.
Create a picture of him or her with the attributes you 'd like to have alongside and ‎go about your day to day business as usual

Never fret to discard the physical appearances that don't match the picture of whom you ve created within you.

For some, it may take a few days,a month,a year, or years to find that one . It All depends on how much you've mastered the art of this great principle, and your Timing of course.
But surely, you will find.

Eject and destroy any contrary opinion or idea that you may have nurtured over the years.
That idea may be the reason you re still single.

Ideas like : you don't deserve anything good, No good guy can love you because you've been on the wrong path most of your life or that you have been told you will never be married.

None of this is true.
None of these thoughts have the power to keep you single for the rest of your life except you believe it.

Don't keep yourself down.
Eject those thoughts and believe the right things. Believe you have the best man or woman for you.
Change your thinking and start seeing the right pictures.

Don't go about looking for love in all the dark places as more of disappointment is what you'll keep getting.

Love is right where you are,once you change your focus lens,you'd be amazed at what you see.

Make the decision now to focus on the right things life has to offer and enjoy all you can.

I am sure it's been a restful weekend.
Here s wishing you a great week ahead.
I Love you

Cheers.

The Power Of Speaking The Right Words...

Imagine words like crops we sow into the ground that germinate, now, whether it was sown while you were happy, sad or angry,as long as it's in the ground,it grows.

The point here is, your state of being has got nothing to do with the germination of the seed you sow into the ground.That is to say,the power of a seed is in itself regardless of its size.

This very simple seed illustration is the same with words.

Note: Words from our mouth are powerful, and when spoken rightly, they transform and affect anything and everything they are directed at. So, its important you
don’t ever underestimate the power of words you speak.

Same also,in our relationships,the use of right words can determine how far it goes. Make a decision to use consistent words irrespective of your state of your mind.

A quick reminder, Death and Life are features present in  words. If you choose to use inconsistent words due to your state of mind that is feelings of  sadness, anger, depression or happiness, then your relationship would suffer upward and downward movement and never grow in the right direction. But, if you are angry ,and yet you maintain the right word to your spouse,then things can only get better and better.

3 key words that should always be on your lips at all time are:

• I am sorry
• Thank you
• I Love you

Use them sufficiently and your home will be filled with love and happiness.

1 peter 3:10 says: “For he that will love life,and see good days,let him refrain his tongue from evil,and his lips that they speak no guile.

Use the power of words to change the state of your marriage,relationships and life as a whole.

Here's wishing you a fruitful and beautiful weekend.
Also feel free to send in your comments, as i'd love to read from you.

Enjoy your day.

To your success.

Domestic Violence;Not An Option!

How can we explain two people who met,fell in love and suddenly find themselves tagged in a case of domestic violence?

This is a serious issue worth paying attention to,believe me.!

As easy as getting into the right relationship is for some,it's quite unfortunate and not so easy for others.

Why???

Love is not the only important and necessary ingredient for a fulfilling and lasting relationship.

Just so you know, Love is more than a feeling, so if you get in to a relationship based on feelings, then be sure that relationship won't last.

Love is a decision. As a matter of fact, you can love anybody and everybody.

Have you ever noticed someone you just never liked at first glance, or someone you felt you could never like for no reason at all and suddenly you end up in the same office,with your desk not far from each other. You get to see each other everyday and almost immediately, you could see this someone for who he /she truly is and suddenly, you find yourself feeling differently about the person after all.
Do you even know you could end up marrying such person?

Making a decision to love someone is what we are commanded to do, not to follow our feelings...

So, ‎to make a decision on whom to marry,you need to seek wisdom,its not enough to be a relationship expert, or to feel all the vibes, you have to go on your knees to pray, so God can reveal what you need to know. Also, you need to seek counsel from people you regard highly, take for example your spiritual and earthly parents. The Bible  says, there's SAFETY in the multitude of counselors....

You have to be very careful when making your choice about whom to marry because once you are in,you are in!

It's also not enough to get married to the right person. Just as mentioned in the previous Article :Dont Quit Just Yet , it takes constant effort to ensure your relationship goes through the right direction.

Efforts like :

• Praying consistently
• Focus on doing your own part
• Loving your spouse regardless of any hurts 
• Consistent communication.

Keeping at these will not only save and preserve  your marriage ,but it will be an enjoyable journey all year long.

Note :As regards the point; giving in to prayer, I don't mean any kind of prayer, there's a book,i would love to recommend, How To Pray Effectively by Chris Oyakhilome D.Sc,D.D.

This book will teach you how to pray effectively and get results..maybe you've got a spouse with a terrible habit, a drunkard, etc...Remember we said, challenges works patience in you...
You've got to keep at it, it may take you days, or months, or years to get your desired results, but surely,you will get the result!

I know they say it takes two to work out a relationship perfectly, but in some cases where it only takes one, I know it may not be easy, but you've got to focus on these outlined points stated above.

Domestic violence is a dangerous and unexciting adventure for couples to experience so please be wise about your choices.

Enjoy this day and keep a smile on!.

To your success.






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Don’t Quit Just Yet.

Challenges are part of essentials for a good relationship!

 Whether you agree or not,reason being that when efforts are not made to ensure the relationship travels in the right direction ,then it goes in different directions and introduces all sort of unwanted things  in the relationship.

Also, remember both parties are from different backgrounds and homes with different orientation about life.With both of them deciding to be together as one,its very natural for problems to arise.

Now,there s nothing wrong in all of these. Absolutely nothing!

Challenges strengthen the chords of a relationship and makes it sweeter when properly handled.

One thing that needs to be in place is to GET WISDOM.

Wisdom is the principal thing .
Wisdom to deal when a situation arises.
Wisdom to know your place and act accordingly.
Wisdom to tolerate and to decide, come what may, this relationship stands!

Also,you ll have to make up your mind to love your partner regardless of his /her shortcoming.

Ever heard the phrase:’Live and let Live’…??? It simply means to live your life and allow the other party to be free to live their lives as well, By being tolerant.

You didn’t create a soul in this world, or did you? So ,everyone is peculiar in their own way.
As smart as you may think you are, the other party also feels the same way.
Learn to appreciate each other and let love guide your every decision.

Just as the image above describes it, you don’t change the house just because the bulb in it burns out.
Its the same thing to separate the offence from the offender. When your spouse hurts you, separate the offence from the offender and focus on how to deal with the offence. If it was a wrong word spoken to you, then you start thinking how you can help your partner get better in the use of words, or if he always mismanages funds, beats you, or cheats on you, then you focus on how to get rid of these offences rather than throwing off the whole house.This would require the work of  Patience.
And remember,challenges produces Patience in you.

You have to keep making CONSTANT EFFORT  to ensure your relationship goes in the right direction.

You want to know things you can do to get rid of these bad habits you may be experiencing with your partner, then that’s a thought for another day.

Love your partner beyond his/her faults and focus on building an exceptional home.
There’s a lot more you can do. Stop thinking to quit!

We are approaching the end of this amazing week,I hope you have been making giant strides.
Have fun enjoying the benefits of today.

To your success.




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Do You Know what MAY Has for you???

Its a new month with  fresh and beautiful opportunities.

Do you know you are the one to tell the month what it should deliver to you?Not the other way round of expecting the month to deliver something good to you.?

This month is different from the previous months and has in it what can transform your life to that higher realm you've always wanted.

Have you been hoping to get something spectacular all these while?
Do you know it can happen for you in this new month?Irrespective of the fact that you may have been planning,praying and hoping for years just to get this desire of yours...

Maybe you've been trying to get hooked up with a decent man of your dreams,do you seriously know that he can come for you this month,even today?

Do you know that you can get that car of your dreams in this month of May??

Or is it to have a better job ,live a better life,and have the attention for things that matters most,that can transform your life in a split second?

Do you know you can find a friend you haven't seen in 10 years, today?(just like i did yesterday)
Or have you been hoping to be a source of joy to your parents and family members,do you really know you can do something of significance today and change their perspective of you for life?
                                                   
Do you know that some people are in different parts of the world doing meaningful things to affect their worlds,riding the best cars,following the path God designed for their lives,making impact with all they do.?

Do you know there's so much you can do right now to save,improve your home,or to be a better spouse and a better parent to your kids?

Make up your mind right now,i am sure if you re following this line of thought carefully,you would have paused many times just to think of what you can do in the specific area i may have mentioned.

That's just how to use your mind.You can't have such thoughts often enough and not come up with anything that could make the difference.

Life is spiritual and does not consist of the things that you see with your physical eyes.

May has a lot of beautiful things for you just like i heard in the communion service i attended yesterday evening,where the Man of God,Pastor Chris Oyakhilome said anything you want can come to you freely in this month,that its a special month set aside for special blessings in your life.

He also mentioned you can get pregnant this month if you have been struggling to keep or have one.

There is no kidding to this,use this lovely insight to transform your whole life in a split second ,and thank me later.

Here's wishing you a super lovely May,and don't forget to share your testimonies via the comments section.

To your success.

Building a Strong Foundation is necessary for an Exceptional,Long lasting Relationship

                                   

Does it ever cross your mind that having a solid foundation is key in any relationship?

I can go on and on about theories of how this can be achieved but, then again,there's one basic factor that must be considered in order to enjoy an exceptional relationship.

It is the God factor.

Having a proper understanding of who God is can transform anyone or any relationship.

Note: You cannot have a successful home or relationship without God's involvement as God is LOVE.

Now, as simple as this message appears, it's understanding can transform any home or individual.

Love has a whole lot of description,but considering a few from 1corinth 13:4-11 ,Love is kind and patient,covers a multitude of sin,keeps no record of wrongs,endures long ,does not insist on its own rights or its own ways,pays no attention to a suffered wrong and so on......

Take for example our dear Tiwa savage, in fairness, I think she should have gotten in her closet to meditate more on these thoughts about Love before coming out to say all that she said about her husband.

Being joined to her husband was a life contract she signed ,I mean i watched her utter those words online about her marriage being over and I cried for her.

Tiwa & Tee Billz

Yes, her husband said a whole lot of nasty things about her and made the whole situation a real mess  but, if she had come out to openly declare her love, not to mention offering her forgiveness regardless of all the pain and hurt in her heart,exalting him instead,  rather than exposing more of his shortcomings,wouldnt the world have seen her truly as a gifted and submissive woman full of wisdom ?or better still not come out at all??

we have to understand its not the world we owe our life or marriage, it is God.

We need to always look out for what God thinks and not what the world thinks or would think.

The very first and important question we need to ask ourselves before getting into any relationship is,

Why am i into this relationship?

She did right by acknowledging  her mistake and to  mention she knew all these would happen.
Now, the question i personally would have loved to ask is why did she marry him in the first place?

'Why am i in this relationship' I believe is a frequent  question you need to ask yourself over and over again.

Knowing the reason of a course better helps you in the journey ahead as you're guided to fulfill your purpose too. Proper understanding helps you to define your relationship and know it's essence.

Derailed foundation needs to be reset. God's involvement should be topmost of concern as it is required more than anything else for a solid and lasting relationship.

Prayer changes things and works wonders. I dont ever believe its the end yet until individuals or homes experiencing struggles DECIDE to win.

Tiwa and TeeBliz, My prayers are with you,I love you Guys,and I wish you two the best in your journey of love!
Your marriage is worth fighting for Tiwa,Dont give in to defeat,stop listening to what the world says and make God proud!You've got what it takes and i believe in you.

Hey guys, why don't we carefully learn from these stories and be guided. It's not everything that glitters that’s gold. So, choose wisely and let your decisions be on things that would last!

And do not forget to drop your comments.

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Enjoy your weekend

See you next time.

















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