There are quite a few signs discussed below to identify someone who is emotionally unavailable.
- Flirting with Flattery: Men who are too flattering may also be adept listeners and communicators, like snake charmers. Often good at short-term intimacy, some lure with self-disclosure and vulnerability, but they prefer the chase to the catch.
- Control. Someone who won’t be inconvenienced to modify his or her routine. Typically, commitment phobics are inflexible and loathe compromises. Relationships revolve around them.
- Negativity : Your date may hint or even admit that he or she isn’t good at relationships or doesn’t believe in or isn’t ready for marriage. Listen to these negative facts
- The past. Find out if the person once upon a time had a long-term relationship and why it ended. You may learn that prior relationships ended at the stage when intimacy normally develops.
- Perfection seekers. These people look for and find a fatal flaw in the opposite sex and then move on. The problem is that they’re scared of intimacy. When they can’t find imperfection, their anxiety rises. Given time, they will find an excuse to end the relationship. Don’t be tempted to believe you’re better than their past partners.
- Anger. Notice rudeness to waiters and others, revealing pent-up rage. This type of person is demanding and probably emotionally abusive.
- Arrogance. Avoid someone who brags and acts cocky, signaling low self-esteem. It takes confidence to be intimate and committed.
- Lateness. Chronic lateness is inconsiderate, and can also indicate the person is avoiding a relationship, but don’t assume that punctuality means he or she’s a catch.
- Evasiveness. Being secretive, shielding off past experiences,and not being truthful to you.
- Seduction. Beware of sexual cues given too early. Seducers avoid authenticity because they don’t believe they’re enough to keep a partner. Once the relationship gets real, they’ll sabotage it. Seduction is a power play and about conquest.
Most people reveal their emotional availability early on but, I would say , Pay attention to the facts, especially if there’s mutual attraction. In some cases the person might seems to be your Mr. or Mrs. Right yet be emotionally unavailable, you’re left with nothing but pain. If you overlook, deny, or rationalize to avoid short-term disappointment, you run the risk of enduring long-term misery.
But then again,check yourself with these points stated to be sure you are not guilty of any, because if you are, and you find yourself demanding commitment from your spouse, that's a counterproductive measure that won't work.
Change by insisting on doing what is right and gradually, you will attract happiness and be at peace as you aspire for success.
Enjoy your day.
**Cheers.
Source: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-spot-emotional-unavailability-dominic-a-mancini?forceNoSplash=true
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