We are meant to be...

It may interest you to know that a lot of people believe this word
‘We are meant to be’ like, there’s no other person that can ever love them perfectly other than who they have at the moment… Fortunately this appears to be true in some cases as long as the relationship is healthy…

I tell my husband everyday he’s the best guy in the whole world, and, am just happy because it appears we’re just meant to be!

But, in a relationship where all that you experience is nothing but negative vibes I.e: emotional unavailability, loneliness,pains,hurt,fights,slaps,curses,anger,bitterness ,malice and so on, i would advice you sit back and ask yourself simple questions starting with the most important which is....

• Of What benefit is this relationship?(Friendship? Sex mate? Marriage? Short time Lovers?) and so on..Ensure to have a definition first...

• What has changed in your life since your involvement in such relationships? (Improvements or Degradation)

• On your part, how well do you know your partner?

• How much effort and commitment have you enforced in saving the relationship from being derailed?

There are many questions to ask yourself ,but these ones are okay for me if you can answer them honestly.

Knowing who you are, and what you have been called to do in life alone can make you realize the truth about your situation.

The blessings God brings into your life, makes you rich without sorrow in it, neither does toiling features in it. So, if you find yourself in such situation, and you blindly console yourself with …you two are meant to be, then you are wrong.

That guy or lady may not be bad, what's bad or wrong might be the timing as that moment of his engagement in a serious relationship is not ripe...

Note: Excusing yourself and focusing on having a healthy relationship with someone whose timing is set is the move and the key!!

Food For Thought:Everybody wants to be in a relationship, but not everyone is set to be in it.

These days you even find primary/secondary school children having dates and you'll Wonder if mentally they can accommodate what adults find hard to..

A topic for another day is How does parent approach such situations when they find out?

It really doesn’t matter if you have been with your partner for 6years or 10years, when all you do is spend a larger percentage of your precious time trying To "Figure Out what's wrong"....Forget Love and !!Move On!! Because you really don't need a sayer to tell you that.

Life is too short, just like Toke Makinwa said in previous post, too short to be short-lived.

Get your groove back and stay focused.

Enjoy your day

**Cheers.